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Today, I’m joined by Greg Coote, a single father from South Africa who shares a deeply moving journey about raising his daughter after the loss of his wife when Micaela was just 18 months old.
In this conversation, Greg opens up about the overwhelming moment he first held his daughter and how he felt an instant sense of protection and responsibility.
He shares what it was like stepping into the role of a solo dad during unimaginable grief, and how he moved from survival mode into a more intentional, present style of parenting.
We also talk about how he creates a safe space for his Micaela to express her emotions, how he balances protection with independence, and why learning to listen instead of trying to fix everything has transformed their relationship.
Greg shares practical insight into raising a confident, curious daughter in today’s world, including setting boundaries around technology, encouraging healthy habits, and supporting her passions in music and sports.
He also explains how his own personal growth and faith journey shaped the way he parents, and how vulnerability, presence and compassion have become the foundation of his relationship with his daughter.
Greg’s story is an excellent reminder that none of us are perfect dads, but we can all be present, intentional and willing to grow.
A few takeaways from the interview really stand out.
First, your daughter doesn’t need you to have all the answers. She just needs you to be present, to listen, and create a safe space where she feels seen and heard.
Second, it’s okay to step back from trying to fix everything. Sometimes the most important thing we can do is to simply listen to our daughters and let them work through whatever they are feeling.
Third, your own growth matters. When you become more self-aware, compassionate and present, your daughter feels it and responds quickly.
Fourth, it is important to balance protection with trust. Set boundaries, of course, but give your daughter room to grow into her independence.
And finally, give yourself some grace. You are doing the best you can with what you have, and being open to learning is what makes you a great dad.
If you’d like to connect with Greg Coote, you can find him on Facebook by searching for his Authentic Coaching page or simply look for his personal profile.
Greg said he welcomes conversations and is happy to connect with other dads.
If you found value in this episode of the DODO Dads podcast, please share it with another father who could use the encouragement. Because the world certainly needs more great girl dads.
Thank you for listening.
